5034475849_45f46fabb1_z

5 reasons it’s OK to be in on your own on a Saturday night..

‘I have to be alone very often. I’d be quite happy if I spent from Saturday night until Monday morning alone in my apartment. That’s how I refuel’

Audrey Hepburn

As I start this piece, I am sat in bed on a Saturday night watching Bridget Jones’s Diary cuddled up to my dog.  Yep, that’s right it’s a Saturday night and I am not out on the town with my friends.

Actually, this is the norm for me most weekends.  A few years back I’d be loathed to admit that fact, I’d try anything, ANYTHING, not to be in on a Saturday night and if I were I’d certainly not be alone.   Staying in on a Saturday night is like admitting you have no social life, no friends and no life.

Yet these days, Saturday nights don’t mean that much to me anymore.  Oh of course, I love to go out when the opportunity arises. When I have enough cash to do so and when I have someone I want to go out with.   But since I started finally going through with following my dreams, going out on a Saturday night has kind of lost its appeal.  It’s no longer a priority and to be frank, my friends and my money has fallen by the waistline anyhow (for now)

That’s just the way it goes sometimes…

Just so you know this isn’t a ‘feel sorry for me’ post. It’s a fact of life for me.  The reason being is that I have chosen a new way of life, which is so far away from the way I used to live it, yet it still takes some getting used to.  That’s not to say that I don’t get down about it sometimes, I do, but now I tend to remember all the reasons why I’m in on a Saturday night and it goes something like this…..

I get to do what I want and love what I do

I can remember countless weekends going out just for the sake of ‘going out’. Or weekends with a boyfriend or friend, doing what they wanted rather than what I wanted to do.  I’d people please and I remember getting to the point where I was getting miserable going out, doing the same old stuff and feeling the same old way.   Whether you are single or not, getting to stay in on a Saturday night on your own gives you some breathing space to do what the hell you want.  It reminds you of what you love about you because you are doing what you love.  It’s a time to recharge and take better care of you.

Saving money for what really matters

Whatever way you look at it when you go out on a Saturday night you’ll end up spending money which a) you might have plenty of or b) you have very little of and even that has already been spent!  If you stay in you can either save that money or not get yourself into more debt and regret it the next day.  Look at it this way, you’ve not gone out for one Saturday is it really a big deal?  That money can be better put to use to stuff that really matters, like buy food that is good for you or a nice massage that you really need. Use it for things that really matter, rather than wasting it for something you might regret down the line.

Feel great on a Sunday morning!

Oh yeah. I am totally feeling this one.  I can remember a time when Sunday’s never seemed to exist, why? Because most of it would involve me lying in bed, feeling dreadful or somehow trying to recount what I actually did the night before. I’d usually be filled with guilt, regret or so gutted I’d spent stupid amounts of money on nothing much.

Instead, imagine feeling bright eyed and bushy tailed on a Sunday morning!  Feeling like Sunday’s are no longer a day of remorse, or worse, the day before Monday filled with that ‘sinking feeling’ in the pit of your stomach.   Now you feel ready to take the day head on, get some stuff finished off or those jobs that you need to actually do instead of putting off for another week.  Its great waking up on a Sunday happy, what a great reason to stay in the night before!

You are choosing to stay in

A great reason because you have taken responsibility for your life.  If you see it like that, you’ll do it more and more that I promise you.  Let’s face it, if you wanted to go out you would, but instead you are choosing to do something different, out of the ordinary and when you do something like that for yourself you are choosing yourself.   You have decided to take care of you and even if it just means you want to stay in to stop spending more money, you are still choosing yourself and owning your life.  It’s so easy to go along with the crowd, to go with the flow and feel bad afterwards (OK not all Saturday nights make you feel bad I know!). This time you choose not to. You choose to say ‘no’. So good for you!

Single? You can meet your ‘soul-mate’ any day of the week!

That’s right.  I remember I used to stress thinking I’d be missing out if I didn’t go out on a Saturday night. I mean that’s the night EVERYONE goes out isn’t it?  Not any more, life has changed, people don’t tend to just go out at the weekends anymore so don’t stress about finding ‘the right one’.   Firstly, taking time out to be you and love yourself will not only give you a health body and mind, but it will also stop the desperation to find someone because you think you are getting old! Nonsense I say!  Be happy with what you have right now and what is meant to come will come. The Universe has a funny way of sorting things out when you just don’t imagine it to happen.

Believe me, it really is a good option sometimes and to be honest with you, the more you do it the more you will relish that time alone.  Being alone is such a great way of getting back to you, re-aligning yourself with your true self.

So grab it with both hands whilst you can!

What do you think? Are you happy to stay in on a Saturday night? What do you do? Would love to know.

 

Lots of Love

 

Paula x

P.S. I’d love for you to sign up for daily growth spurts, all you need to do is head on over to the sign up form at the top right of this page! Easy!

 

Image source – Flickr Aaron Escobar

4 Comments

  • Kendra

    Reply Reply June 29, 2014

    Paula, Paula, Paula…once again you seem to right there in my head. How do you do it? I too used to go out every single Saturday night – for all the same reasons you did. And I would wake up Sunday morning hung over, broke and wondering why I had gone out in the first place. I realized that honestly, I just wasn’t having that much fun. And if it isn’t fun…well why do it?

    I began staying home on those nights and actually love that time to be me. You are correct in that the alone time is a great time to rejuvenate and get to the heart of who you are. Or it is also a great time to read a really good mystery, watch a movie or just play silly computer games. Sometimes you need to do that as well!

    Great post, Paula, as always!
    Kendra recently posted…3 Quick and Easy Fixes for StressMy Profile

    • Paula

      Reply Reply June 30, 2014

      Haha I think I am in your head Kendra and you are in mine! Thank you and yes I do all those things and more now. It’s wonderful isn’t it? It makes you feel so liberated that you can choose rather than feeling as if you have to! Thanks for commenting Kendra :)

  • Graciela

    Reply Reply July 7, 2014

    Wow! I am do happy I found your website!!! But this one tops the charts for me. This is were I am right now, STOP feeling “guilty” for doing whatever the hell YOU feel like doing! Staying home on a Saturday night had been the most rewarding time for ME!
    I also now tend to catch up with friends during the week, and not only this adds variety to your week, but most bars/restaurants always have mid week deals :-)
    So it’s a win win situation.
    Thank you for sharing, I fell very “normal” (if there is such a thing? Lol).

    • Paula

      Reply Reply July 7, 2014

      Hey Graciela! That’s wonderful news. Yes don’t feel guilty, cos who wrote the rule book for ‘YOU must go out on Saturday nights?’ hahah do what you want when you want and yep you’ve hit the nail on the head. You’ve found that weekdays are cheaper! Fantastic – keep up that attitude lady. Thank you and p.s who wants to be normal?!! :)

Leave A Response

* Denotes Required Field

CommentLuv badge